what I know is God began to pave the path of navigating bonus life long before I became a part of one. from an early age walking through my parents divorcing one another (twice) and becoming an young adult with bonus parents of my own.
growing up I spent time hoping back and forth between my mom and dads during the week; navigating the emotions of them being present at soccer games together or being overly aware of comments made about one another to tip toeing over how to say something about the other parent with out hurting another’s feelings.
this bonus life is beyond tricky for small humans and even grown up humans. i spent my college years studying about families, learning how kids develop and seeing the layers of family dynamics. and it is now in my thirties that i am able to look back on my college education being able to utilize it while recognizing how my childhood dynamics shape me into who I am as a wife, daughter, friend, encourager, leader and bonus mom today.
this life we are living is a bonus to what we ever expected to land on our journey. it is the beauty that came after ashes, one could say this is the puzzle piece that I had been praying to find through the long seasons of singleness and unhealthy relationships.
so as I share in this space – it is delivered through eyes of understanding, through eyes of knowing how tricky it can be, through eyes of learning + being curious, through eyes of knowing I am here maybe like you — doing my best to navigate this world of bonus families in order to make sure these small humans are felt seen, heard and loved.
xo. krislyn
bonus mom to two small humans.